Tonight before bed, my 6-year-old daughter was telling me about a boys-vs-girls competition at school today, which the girls won. I responded by saying, “Yay, girls rule!” She cheerfully joined in at first, but then she stopped. Her expression grew more serious, and she said, “But not now, because Donald Trump rules.” I told her Donald Trump doesn’t … Continue reading I told my daughter she can do anything. She didn’t believe me.
Years ago, during an ill-advised—and short—career in youth ministry, I found myself teaching a junior high Sunday school class. The denominationally approved curriculum didn’t exactly light a fire under my kids. (Not to worry: it wasn’t an Episcopal curriculum!) One day I realized none of them were able to say why they were Christian, despite having been baptized and … Continue reading What if ALL we did was tell our kids the story?
A few months ago, I shared how my daughter is teaching me to pray again. What I didn’t realize then is that she’s also teaching me how to pray. Every night, we say bedtime prayers together. Usually—and at her choice—I’m the one who prays. But lately, more and more, she’s been deciding that she wants to … Continue reading When my daughter prayed for Syria
Writer Cindy Brandt recently shared three very good reasons why she hasn’t prayed the sinner’s prayer with her kids. For those of us who grew up evangelical, praying the sinner’s prayer was a Very Big Deal. In my church, when someone was assessing your spiritual state, one of the first things they wanted to know … Continue reading 3 alternatives to saying the sinner’s prayer with your kids
Recently I came across the infographic at the end of this post, after sharing why my wife and I choose not spank our children. I was a little surprised at how prevalent pro-spanking attitudes still are. Yes, Christians (78%) are more likely to think that kids need a good spanking, as are Republicans (80%), those who live in the South (78%), and … Continue reading The effects of spanking kids (infographic)
I was spanked as a kid, though it was only a handful of times. My brother was more of an instigator, which meant he had more experience with the wrong end of a paddle. Our experience of corporal punishment was nothing like what Adrian Peterson’s 4-year-old son endured. There were no belts or switches in our … Continue reading Why I won’t spank my children
Lately I’ve been reading the stories of parents whose children came out of the closet. When James Brownson’s 18-year-old son told his parents he was gay, it prompted a five-year period of reflection and study (Brownson is a New Testament scholar), culminating in the book Bible Gender Sexuality. Elsewhere, an anonymous evangelical pastor shared his story … Continue reading When the dreams you had for your kids fall apart
At the beginning of the year, I made a resolution to write something at least once a week. In the past, I’ve aimed to write something everyday, but it’s always proved too much. So this year I decided to try for once a week — in order to keep me in the habit of writing, while giving me an achievable … Continue reading The week I broke my blogging resolution…
Recently I’ve been making my way through Rachel Held Evans’ book A Year of Biblical Womanhood. Yeah, it’s been out for a while, but you know… life. I love this book for a number of reasons, not least of which is the sometimes startling honesty that permeates Rachel’s writing. Startling, because this kind of honesty… … Continue reading Nurturing your kids’ faith when you haven’t figured out your own yet
Former Growing Pains and Left Behind star Kirk Cameron is getting into the parental advice business. In a recent post, Cameron shared the “train, don’t explain” childrearing philosophy of author Jay Younts. Basically, this approach says you don’t owe your kids an explanation. Ever. You tell them what to do/think/believe and demand their unquestioning, unhesitating … Continue reading 3 things in the Bible you’ll want to avoid if following Kirk Cameron’s parenting advice